ATTACHMENT AND BONDING
ATTACHMENT: PRACTICAL ASPECTS
Research supports the clinical impression that most internationally adopted children form attachment to their parents. However, it is apparent that many children have attachment issues.
After adoption, some post-institutionalized children fail to exhibit normal pre-attachment behaviors, such as eye contact, smiling, and making their needs known. Some children do not signal their parents when they waken, do not show that they are in pain, or come to their parents when distressed.
If the child does display attachment-seeking behaviors, the parents may perceive these as "immature" rather than appropriate - for example, clingy, not cuddly, or demanding, not needy. Likewise, indiscriminate friendliness is usually not perceived as a particular problem by most parents shortly after adoption. Over time, however, many parents become alarmed about their child's safety and disappointed that their own relationship with the child has not grown deeper over time.
From THE HANDBOOK OF INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION MEDICINE by Laurie C. Miller. © 2004 by Oxford University Press, Inc. Used by Permission.