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By Deborah Moore
Based on the work of Doris Landry, MS with permission

60-Second Scolding. A 60-second scolding is another highly effective discipline technique. When the child misbehaves, the parent comes close to the child and makes eye contact, even gently holding his face if necessary. The parent tells the child, firmly but without shouting, how the child's actions affected the parent. The parent then softens her voice hugs the child and tells him how much he is loved and assures him it is the parent's job to take care of the child, and together they will work through the problem.

The Adoption Twist:

The 60-second scolding is intense and honest, provides immediate intervention and ends on a nurturing note, affirming the parents love and commitment toward the child. Most parents scold, walk away and proceed with life as though nothing has happened. The adopted child is profoundly affected by disciplinary action, so the re-attunement "twist" is vital. This technique is powerful in its simplicity and works well for the adopted child, as it fosters a quick re-attunement between parent and child.

The materials for this course have been reprinted with permission from the book Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox Building Connections, edited by Jean MacLeod and Sheena Macrae Copyright 2006 EMK Press, all rights reserved. The complete 520 page book covering all aspects of becoming and being an adoptive family is available at Amazon.com.


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