WHAT TO CONSIDER
If you are Caucasian, for example, and are considering adopting an African-American, biracial, or international child who will look very different from you, here are some questions you may need to ask yourself:
- How do I feel about raising a child and providing him with a sense of his heritage?
- How would I handle the comments from others about how my child looks different from me?
- How would I feel about my child marrying someone of the same racial or ethnic background and having grandchildren of that heritage?
- How would I feel about my child marrying someone of a different race?
- Do I have friends or relatives outside of my race or culture?
- How will I feel if people tell me how lucky my child is to be adopted by an American family?
- Will my expectations for the child be based on his race or culture?
- Do I feel differently about adopting a black or Asian girl versus a black or Asian boy?
The materials for this course have been reprinted with permission from the book The Complete Adoption Book, Third Edition, Copyright © 2005, 2000, 1997, by Laura Beauvais-Godwin and Raymond W. Godwin. Used by permission of Adams Media, an F+W Media, Inc. Co. All rights reserved. The complete book is available at bookstores on and offline.